Parenting for Service Members and Veterans

Parenting for Service Members and Veterans is an anonymous, online self-help course designed to help the military community improve their parenting skills. It provides military and veteran parents with tools and practical advice to help them reconnect with their families after a separation, strengthen relationships with their children and build upon their existing parenting skills.

Using stories from real veteran and military families, interactive activities and a curriculum developed by leading experts, MilitaryParenting helps parents address both everyday parenting problems and family issues unique to their military history.

Module 1 Back into the Family Module 2 Promoting Positive Parent-Child Communication Module 3 Helping Your Child with Difficult Emotions and Behaviors Module 4 Positive Approach to Discipline Module 5 Managing Stress and Emotions as a Parent Module 6 Parenting with Emotional and Physical Challenges

Since 2001, lengthy and multiple combat deployments have disrupted life for millions of military family members. This course can help these parents reintegrate and reconnect with their children, whether they are returning from a current deployment or have reintegrated many years ago.

Parents with combat injuries or mental health concerns can find strategies for parenting in the face of such personal challenges. All parents, whether struggling or satisfied with their children’s behavior, will find MilitaryParenting gives them tools they can use today to teach their children skills and values that they can keep for a lifetime.

The MilitaryParenting course provides a strength-based approach for addressing parenting issues before more serious issues arise. Registration is not required to take the course, and no personal information is ever requested or stored by the website.

MilitaryParenting is a stand-alone course, but it may be used with in-person counseling. The Web course is not intended to replace mental health treatment and offers parents specific guidelines on when they might seek professional help for their child or family.

This course was developed as part of the DoD/VA Integrated Mental Health Strategy. The National Center for Telehealth & Technology and the Veterans Administration partnered with each other to lead this effort. This was established to advance a coordinated public health model to improve access, quality, and efficiency of mental health services for all active duty service members, National Guard and Reserve members, veterans, and their families.

Contributing Psychologists

Dr. Pamela MurphyPam Murphy, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist at the National Center for Telehealth and Technology. She is the Department of Defense lead for the Parenting for Service Members and Veterans project and consults on a variety of psychological health technology initiatives. Prior to her present position, she had an extensive career providing mental health services for children and families in schools, community clinics and private practice. Dr. Murphy received her Psy.D. from Baylor University.


Dr. Peter ShorePeter Shore, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist. He is currently the Director of Telehealth for VISN 20 Department of Veterans Affairs and an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry in the Department of Psychiatry at Oregon Health and Science University. Dr. Shore was Program Manager, Web Services, Mental Health Services, VA Central Office where he served as the VA lead for the Parenting for Service Members and Veterans project. He has been invited to speak at numerous conferences, and he currently serves as a consultant on several telehealth grants.